Hi folks, another casual post from me again. I'm gonna blurt up my thinking about Friends. Well, I am convinced that each and everyone of us does need friends around, and we do enjoy being around with friends, am I right? Remember when we were young, how innocent and how cute of us who used to follow the culture input by the adults - we shake our hands when making friend with another before introducing. Sooner, this culture has been adopted by each of us, and we practice it every single time when we are meeting new friends.
As time flies, we started to learn from our mistakes, absorb the gist or the moral of our stupidity, and we try to avoid repeating the exact mistake again when we were put into the similar shoe. Or in short, our brain has begun to differentiate between true and false, black and white, and good or bad. The quote where we commonly shared among 'don't judge a book by its cover', well, I believe in this and I vow I am putting my best foot forward in implementing it on my routines. Whenever I meet up with someone or should I class him/her as stranger (at the first point), and my brain cells start working already - observation. No doubt, I am pretty sure that I am treating every friends of mine the exact way, no bias. (Probably I might be bias once a while, and sorry for that, no offense)
As a human, we own the ability to think wisely. After mixing with the bunch of friends for quite sometime, we are able to judge and do the classification by our own self, with or without sharing them out. However, in reality....nothing goes as perfect as you wished, things might be out of track, things might turn you down badly. Betraying, accusing, lies, back-stabbing and etc will soon be revealed out, and by the time you found it out, and peeling the lies in between as if layer by layer, it hurts you badly, ain't it? For me, yes, it will. At this point, if accusing has come to the picture, what am I gonna do next? Fight back? Explaining a millions of time? Remain silent? Let it be? Well, I will stick back to my own philosophy, if that particular friend (the accuser) worth it, never mind if I am to explain it either a millions or a thousands of time to make things crystal clear; if vice versa, then I will just remain silent and let it be, because he/she does not worth to be bothered at all!
I set it clear in my mind, I observed before I classify. (Please do not confuse yourself, I do not classify but I am observing when I first met with the new friend, I started classifying after mingle around for a certain period) 'A friend in need is a friend indeed' - means a true friend who comes to your aid when you're in difficulties. There are various types of friend, some are true and sincere friend, some are just exploiting, some are making fool of you, some are just good at crapping around, some are darnly good at 'acting', some are expertise in twisting facts around, some are purely for mixing around and so on... My advice is, be wise! The surface never reveal everything, everything.
PS: So peeps, what is your opinion or your own philosophy in making a friend?
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8 months ago
I must say this, "Oh my god, this post absolutely touches to my heart!" :)
Back to basic, who are your sincere friends? normal friends? Hi-Bye friends? Classification is quite a normal behavior, no doubt most of the people do classify the friends around them.
But before comes to classification, observation needs to step in. How do we observe? It depends... How do we judge? Varies... Just instance, we do not want to fall into the trap of "Don't judge a book by its cover", correct?
Well, my philosophy is simple. Greet, observe, classify. Same, right? But I do believe this, time will reveal everything.
Thanks, Akira!
Exactly, we're avoiding 'judging a book by its cover'. We're using the same way, same philosophy. You're right, time...it will reveals everything either good or bad. =)
Cheers!